Engaging Minds, Transforming Lives

For Parents

Your Student’s First Year

Families will face the time when their student recognizes that they will soon be departing for college - freedom, responsibility, independence - and family members must let go. The departure is a significant milestone in the life of a family and ushers in a time of separation and transition, requiring an adjustment on the part of parents, the college bound student, and the whole family. What should you expect in your student’s first year?

“One of the most difficult parts of being the parent of a college student is observing from afar as your child makes the often bumpy transition from dependence to independence. After years of being a responsible, caring, and ‘in control’ parent, this change can be frightening, rewarding, and nerve-racking — sometimes all in the same week!” —

Don’t Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money: The Essential Guide to the College Years, by Helen E. Johnson and Christine Schelhas-Miller, St. Martin’s, 2000.


monthly guide of key issues, transitions and emotions many first-year students experience














First test results

Academic Challenges

Midterm grades

Maintaining health and proper diet

Time management





Registration for Spring classes

Beginning preparations for final exams

Making travel plans for holidays





Let your students have their own space … this is a busy month. Encourage them to maintain focus.

Be supportive even if midterm performance is not what you or your student had expected. Remind them to use the library, and to seek advice from professors and other mentors.

Help your son or daughter think about spring registration. Spring tuition and fees must be paid in advance (Dec. 11) before their return to campus in the Spring.

Encourage your student to visit Health and/or counseling services if problems arise.


Ask your student what they would like to do while home for the holiday

Encourage your student to make an appointment with their academic adviser in the first week of Nov.

Remind your student that adequate preparation time for final exams is important to his or her success.

Remind them about the value of adequate amounts of sleep, proper eating, rest and relaxation in addition to following a routine of study habits.

Be supportive of your student during this month and through the short holiday.

If a parent ever has a concern about his or her student’s emotional or physical well-being, we encourage a phone call to the Office of Parent Relations (800-960-6363) for referral to the appropriate campus resource. Due to FERPA regulations, staff will not be able to share information about your student’s situation with you, but be assured that a member of the Student Life or Academic Success and Records staff will check in with your student.

suggested reading for parents

We highly recommend that all parents review the Southwestern Parent Handbook, especially the section titled, Partnering for Success. The faculty and staff of Southwestern focus on one outcome - the success of our students. We ask parents to partner with us by:

  • Asking your student questions rather than providing the answers.
  • Encouraging your student to resolve issues by identifying and utilizing campus resources.
  • Helping your student understand that processes are valuable in the educational environment.
  • Avoiding the temptation to get overly involved in processes that are designed for students to do themselves.

Don’t just take our word for it! Here are some helpful resources about parenting a college student.

  • Letting Go: A Parents’ Guide to Understanding the College Years, by Karen Levin Coburn and Madge Lawrence Treeger, Perennial Books, 2003.
  • The iConnected Parent: Staying Close to Your Kids in College (and Beyond) While Letting Them Grow Up, by Barbara K. Hofer, 2011.
  • You’re On Your Own (But I’m Here if You Need Me): Mentoring Your Child During the College Years, by Majorie Savage, 2003.